Does marriage make people happy? Alternatively, do happy people get married?

Marriage is one of the most important institutions that affect the lives and welfare of the population. Institutions govern marital sex and encourage engagement between spouses. This commitment has positive effects, for example on the health of the spouses and their outcomes in the labor market.

In this article, we look directly at the effect of marriage on happiness of the spouses, as measured in a survey by the panel width, socioeconomic German group, with data on subjective well-being reported. This allows us to analyze whether marriage makes people happy or whether happy people are more likely to marry. We want to go beyond many previous studies documenting that married people are happier than single and cohabiting (eg, Myers, 1999). We have two main interests in this paper, one objective is to provide systematic evidence that benefits most and who benefits least double. This evidence is used to evaluate the auxiliary hypotheses that are essential in models of the marriage market.
Becker's seminal work on the economics of marriage (1973, 1974) is based on the income of married people get from household production and the division of labor. Other theories focus on the joint consumption of household public goods husband or reciprocity and equality in social relations selective. In this latter
If it is argued that the trend "as married as" facilitates compatibility of the values ​​and beliefs of the spouses. Our empirical analysis studies whether couples with varying degrees of potential and actual labor specialization and roughly difference in education differ systematically in their benefits of marriage.
 

It is not our intention to recommend that people should or should not marry. Instead, we intend to contribute to the public debate about the value of intact families and lawmakers debate the marriage penalties in the tax code, or the effect of welfare programs and social security on marriage. Moreover, empirical data on the levels of several pairs of utility helps us better understand the sources of well-being in marriage. The empirical analysis is challenged by the question of causality. Does marriage make people happier or marriage is a little more likely that more people happy? The second objective of our analysis is to address the issue of selection. So far no large-scale trials in the role of selection in the relationship between marriage and happiness. In a longitudinal data set, we compared the individual remaining singles with singles who marry later, and people who are already married.
In a panel covering a period of 17 years, we find that the selection of the happiest people in marriage is pronounced by those who marry when they are young and becomes a major issue for that factor marry later in life. In addition, a retrospective evaluation shows that those who divorce and were less happy when they were first married and when they were still alone.
This indicates that the effects of significant selection of people generally less happy in the group of divorced persons.
To investigate the differences between the benefits of marriage, we limit our analysis to individuals who were married during the 17 years of the sampling period. The results show that there are large differences in the benefits of marriage between couples. In addition, most of the additional benefits being reported are experienced in the early years of marriage. Potential and real, the division of labor seems to contribute to the welfare of the spouses, especially for women, and when a young family to raise. However, above the median differences in the level of education of the partners has a negative effect on satisfaction experienced compared with couples with small differences life.

How to ladies handled

We've all been there. The growing tension, increased heart rate, and feeling like the one we could explode - yes, we were all angry. He also said that probably control our anger is "good". No wonder that sometimes things do not go as planned and we can end up feeling volcanic rage. how handled
 
Why do women get so angry? ladies
A recent article in the Daily Mail has highlighted the concern of many women feel about their difficulty managing their anger. Lisa describes how she threw the textbook your child across the room when a school, Charlotte businessperson explains how even small things can trigger an explosion of fury, and sculptor Sally explains how he lost several jobs running late because of his angry rants. how
 
There are many tips to increase the number of women who think their anger is out of control, including the pressures of work and the management of a household, managing stress at work, the life -changing events such as divorce or trauma hidden for long. ladies
Why do women feel the need to control your anger? how handled
Traditionally, there has been an unwritten expectation that women must overcome their feelings and maintain an imperturbable appearance; think the reference to the swan often cited, which seems serene as you glide along the river , but paddling furiously underwater. how
Women are led to believe that the expression of emotions is detrimental to the outside, and it is important to protect others from his "irrational" behavior. But is this true? ladies
 
The science of anger how ladies
Evidence suggests that repression continues emotions have a serious impact on our health. The theory of Dr. Deepak Chopra "cell cure" indicates that the cells retain memories ghosts retained when regenerate, leading to physical problems. However, those who had survived a serious illness can access this memory cell and release the negative emotions that new cells were unchanged. Research by Dr. Candace Pert shows that the suppression of emotions releases chemicals that block cell receptors, causing long-term damage potential, while the expression of emotions, keeps wide receivers. how
 
How can we release our anger safely? ladies
Taking the dishes your partner is unhealthy and expensive. What you need is a safe for your anger without distress to the environment around you. If you have trouble controlling their anger, frustration trying to scream, shout their anger, and even enjoy a therapy session to hit a beanbag with a baseball bat, so you can express anger safely. how ladies
So when the turmoil of today seems too much, and her mother-in - law criticized her kitchen once too, why not try the tantrum and quit safely? how handled

Lover, Not a Fighter, but a Tiger

I recently thought, can a positive and optimistic person always gets angry and want to hit someone. Tiger lover
That is a situation in which someone attacks you verbally. Fighter
 
1) It would be better to just shrug and not let someone else makes you angry, because if they do, they start to control you. You give them the key to be used to transform the real you into something you do not want to be - a hysterical monster as an extreme example. Tiger
To be honest, the view of the other person should never shake your attitude and ruin your day, but what happens when you encounter a situation? Tiger Fighter
 
2) There is a saying in Russian that sounds like this, "the dog barks, the wind blows and the caravan moves on," if I'm not mistaken comes from the old Arabic one. This means that we should not be offended or upset if someone criticizes, but increase over all reviews. Tiger
I think it's a very good proverb to remind you when you feel as if you were angry at someone for what they have said or done, but sometimes it's easier said than done. Tiger
 
3) Another thing that helps me is to remember that everyone is different and beauty is in diversity. Even when I encounter a situation or a person who does not really like me, which makes me appreciate the do both, I think everything else I give you that balance that allows you to see everything clearly. Tiger Fighter
 
4) All the world is subjective, even if they say they're not, because we filter the situations that arise through our life experiences, lessons learned, the people they faced; we look at the events through our own prism. Some things that are good for me may be bad for you and vice versa. Tiger lover
Even I think the world is subjective, with countries, governments, media, everything. Some people find certain things and some bad things are the same? Fighter
 
5) I also feel sorry for the people who try to make you feel bad and you carry them along the path of negativity because it means you are very sad, unhappy. Tiger lover
If you are happy, do not scream, crime, criticizing the other. You are happy and want everyone else to be happy too. Tiger Fighter
These negative people trying to invite misery have met people who were treated in the same way they treat you and have not seen or heard anything better. Be more tolerant and understanding, really helps. Tiger
I feel like the older I become, the easier it is for that I control myself, but I have to admit that, in a time when people are idiots just want to win. I know it is a long way to become the patient as a Lama, but I am happy to be on the road to self -improvement. Tiger Fighter

The whole universe against me

me My appointment is at nine-thirty. Therefore, I have time to do a little shopping. I put my coat in the house, and walk the short way to the store. me
It is a clear, bright morning, and I'm sure I'll enjoy my day. universe
Only a handful of people in the store at this time, and no one is in the box. Therefore, it will be easy.
 
I did not bother with a cart or basket, as it should not take long. I just want a package of frozen fish for my lunch. Quickly find what I want, and then headed to the cashier. me
Two people in front of me and before departure. It should not be long, and I hope it is not, the packet of frozen fish is cold; In fact, it freezes. Cool right hand. universe
 
An elderly woman next door. She puts her basket on the counter and the wizard begins to take objects. Three elements were needed; charge for them, then inspects the room. It is a pot of something yellow, and she can not decide how much to pay for it. Studied the package carefully, squinting as if she suffers much sight, before finally nodding and smiling at the elderly. Finally, the wizard calls the back of the store, Mike, support, and looks at him. me
 
Where is Mike? universe
My hand is cooled. Begins to stop responding.
I spend package of frozen fish in my right hand to my left.
Minutes seem to pass. universe
Finally, Mike is running somewhere in the store. He joined his colleague and yellow boat was carrying something and examine it. He shakes his head. "I do not know," he said. "Loading this lady ..." He quotes a price that seems very low. me
Now finally the customer has made the last in his bag. universe
Now begins to be your bag.
 
What? Now?
She did not have the thing ready. Willing to pay? She waited until now to start looking for your purse.
In addition, it seems it can not find. universe
 
Stupid woman. me
I am sure that the woman playing the violin at the bottom of your bag. Ah! Now she has found. She pulls out his wallet and opened it, my left hand becomes number. The woman is his credit card. Therefore, that is it. Please go, lady. Please go. She puts her credit card away. universe 
 
However, no. She is now playing with her shopping bag. Storing things in it. For the love of God, woman! Please, go! me
Now, finally, took her purse and left the store.
One more step to go shopper.
Then I see what it is.
He has a beard, glasses, man. And I start to worry. universe
In my experience, the glasses are synonymous with problems. And the beard means trouble. In addition, the beard and the glasses are synonymous with quintuple problems. me
And, yes, the male client starts talking to the sales girl holding something you want to buy. He asks something. universe
Its board of directors, it seems.
She tells him.
For a few minutes ...
 
But apparently, he is not happy with what you have to say.
They chat about what I look at my watch. I will miss the first of only two buses. I spend package fish for my other hand, again. me
But now, finally, the male buyer shrugs and pay for their purchases.
And now , thank God , and finally , I do mine . universe
I leave the store and home run. I went in, put my pack fish in the refrigerator, and leave , closing the door to the bus stop . I missed the bus I wanted to get , but no matter , the service is average , every ten minutes. universe
 
And the buses are reliable. me
Until today. against
 
I looked at my watch. No bus arrived at nearly fourteen minutes.
I look at the curve of the road in the distance. Just before that, there is a left turn, which itself is right in front of a very large building, a church. universe
A car passed me in the opposite direction. Signs of vehicles turning left and stopped, waiting. The vehicle bus approaches expected. My eyes on the bend of the road, waiting for me and I wonder how many times in the past, I saw that bend the afternoon waiting for a bus, when I look now. Then the vehicle the car is waiting for input. It's a truck! And there is nothing behind it immediately because another car turn left and do not stop in the oncoming traffic. me
 
I looked at my watch. I'll miss my appointment. Thank you for this woman stupid. But now, the bus arrives. I get bored, payment, and take a seat. The driver of the bus stop. Slowly. universe
This bus is late! Hurry!
At the next stop, a woman with a partner comes on board. Take a seat on the other side of the bus in front of me. And start arguing. Both have strong, clear voice . These cut through the noise of the bus did. In fact, the only thing I can hear her loud and clear. They talk about their health or, to be more precise, recent operations. me
 
I have no interest in their health or their operations. However, continue to discuss these things in her clear, strong voice. And I take every word, every detail. universe
I looked at my watch. Why this trip lasts three times longer than usual?
"There were no complications with my points ... "
Shut up woman!
Now, finally, we come to town. me
But now we come to a red light.
And it takes a long time to turn orange. universe
"I was not happy with the care that I'm in the hospital, or ... "
For the love of God, please shut up!
But now we move. me
But the bus early in our bay. against
The bus driver stopped the bus to wait for service before leaving the bay.
" Oh, and I want to tell you about my Hist ... "
I stifle a scream. universe me
How many more things will go wrong today?
The bus bay opposite the very sluggish. Then the bus am moving too slowly. But now, finally, we reached the bay. me
Bus stops.
 
Thank God. against
People get up from their seats. I , somehow , in the back of the bus , wait until there is a hole in the passengers pass me , sliding in my seat. But now departing passengers in front of me stop. For a bent, crippled, white-haired lady rose from her seat. Grab a stick and walked slowly toward the runway. So these are the steps. She turns around. To speak with the driver!
 
The queue of passengers waiting to leave the bus stops of the white-haired lady, very ignorant conversations with driver waiting behind her. I heard a few words of their conversation. She asks the driver when the bus back. me against
Come on, you stupid woman!
Oh, she got the information you want.
Now she is trying to get off the bus. But it is hard to walk up the stairs!
For the love of God! me against
Why not wait until all the other passengers had disembarked before she tried to do? Then you could take all the time he wanted to talk to the driver and get off the bloody buses.
Finally, she gets off the bus and handicap away. me
Fortunately, my destination is only a few hundred meters on the sidewalk.
I looked at my watch. I am ten minutes late.
I hurry. against
A family comes to me on the sidewalk. A mother, a father, and his two small children in advance. One of them, a boy, extending from one side of the sidewalk and I move away from the curb to avoid it. However, the child changes direction and goes directly to me. me 
Alternatively, to be more precise, straight to my knees. This happened to me so many times before. Especially when I am in a hurry. Do I need magnetic knee? This is the only explanation I can offer what is happening now. Magnetic knee. As for these kids go. Always. me
 
My knees. against
Bridging little boy and I hasten on my way. I come to the office. Step through the revolving door and head secretary. She looks up.
I gave him my name. "I have an appointment at nine -thirty, " I said.
She consults a piece of paper on his desk. "Ah, yes," he said. " Is Mrs. Jones -Jones, is not it? "
" Yes," I said. me
" I'm afraid Mrs. Jones -Jones is late this morning," he said. "She should be able to see in thirty minutes. Would you take a seat, please? "
Yes, it's a typical day. me against

Do you have a bad day?

Have you ever had a bad day ? Maybe you have a bad day today. What today is a bad day? Is it the circumstances ? Do you wake up on the wrong side of the bed this morning? Is there anything else it could be ?
 
I would say that regardless of what happens to you during this " bad day " , you can get the better of him. " How, " you ask? With your attitude.
 
I remember years ago when I worked for a company of Window cultivate leads for controlling the door. Knock on the door , greet the person to respond , I will give you my address preparation and request an appointment to meet an advisor window in your windows were effective .
 
On this particular day , I knocked on the door to everything that had to do and I did not get the case. The doors slammed in my face, I was screamed and I was doing my job . I got to the point that I called my supervisor and let him know what was happening and told me to take a little time to recover and get my head back in the game.
 
My attitude at the time was very bad, and frankly , it was a pity party . So I took a little time and called my girlfriend at the time , now my wife, and she help me redirect my attitude.
In this case , I had to talk to someone who was not in the same situation as I was and had a different to what I did so you can focus on what is right and true purpose now .
 
After talking to my girlfriend , I was able to refocus and finish the day with a positive attitude and create the results you want for that day.
So as the day goes on , what are the challenges? More importantly , how your attitude affects how you view these challenges ?
 
Do you have a bad attitude that is at the origin of seeing things from a very negative view , so nothing is done correctly ? Or, are you able to get a positive attitude and see these circumstances as a challenge that you can solve ?
 
When I'm in a difficult situation, I do my best to address the situation with a positive attitude knowing that I have the ability to solve anything I face . The solution can not be found in my own mind , but can be in the mind of another person . It is for me to work with my team so that the solution can be found .
 
I encourage you today to look at your situation meets the challenges that you are very capable of solving . You can not have the answer in your own mind. But there are people who can go to that can help you find the right solution.

Why you need to control your child's anger

In the process of human development, the teenage years are crucial and should be handled with care. Unfortunately, these are the years when children experience and are facing major challenges. During this special time of your life , it can bring down many paths ; some of them not very nice, if not properly managed , can have side effects when they become adults. When children come to the emotions of anger and begin to act out , it may be time to seek counseling to help them effectively manage their anger. 
As a teenager, trying to cope with the diversity of situations that are constantly present , it can be emotionally demanding . This voltage drop a lot of thoughts and feelings of children. Therefore, you need to manage your anger children using the following tips below : control
 
First, teach your children self-awareness and self-control. Teaching a teenager self-awareness as part of anger management for children, requires teaching the person have the ability to assess situations , make them angry. We must help them understand the importance of thinking when bored . Parents , particularly mothers have an important role to play in teaching the child to achieve self - awareness and self- control. need
 
Second, learn to empower their children. Anger management is all about empowerment, the ability to access the situation and take positive instead of acting on impulse decisions. Some tips to herein may include one-on- one counseling , support groups or attending a retreat for teens with anger problems . Although this method for success is important, however , the end result is what really matters . need
 
Finally, look for expert or a professional counselor. The best option for controlling anger of adolescence is to seek professional advice, or if all the self-help process failed. The sooner the better for the child and parents. This may involve the participation of children in camps or take courses in anger management .
 
Anger management for children can be very difficult due to its special nature . This may become worse when they try to hide his anger from their parents. However, as parents, we should be able to look our children and know what has caused anger. When children have expressed their anger , we can use these tips to help control your anger that makes them self-conscious and self-control when angry , teach empowerment and in extreme cases, seek professional advice or expert to help .

How to control anger for Teens

Has useful information on anger management for teens in this article here. As you know, boredom is a natural feeling that occurs when we feel uncomfortable or when something goes against our expectations. However, if you can not control their behavior when angry and anger is not normal for you. Being able to control their behavior is very important and is a way to manage your feeling after reading this article. control
 
You get angry or upset when something makes you inconvenience or something (someone) gets in his way. If you let his anger get the better of you, it can act like a lunatic, for example, you can yell at others, ranting, cursing and even avenge them.
 
When you feel you meet the timing may cause irritation, you should start thinking about solutions if their worst fears come true. These solutions include what to do if you are angry and where should we go for a break. The place you choose should be quiet and peaceful. When you take a break, think about what you can do to calm down. A very effective method that everyone uses is deep breathing. control
 
The level of anger should maintain control. You may notice that when you are angry, your heart rate will increase dramatically which in turn cause you to lose control. Being able to detect the first signs of his wrath will come in handy when trying to control your mood.
The most important thing to do when you lose control is to sit and relax. You must separate way the situation is the cause of their dissatisfaction.
 
Be sure to say something before leaving the conference. It is not recommended that you just get up and leave . Say something that is constructive and use positive words like "I" . For example , do not say . . " I can not stay here longer if I'm going to explode ," say " I seem to be more upset by this topic therefore I think I need a break to regain my control I'll be back as soon as possible." control
 
Before you say anything , think twice . The best way is to plan what you will say and stick to your plan . His personality and must be fully expressed .
During the time that is used to calm , do not do something that will make you become more angry . A simple but useful method you can use is attention. It is a way to control what you think. Do you think the positive side of the argument and think positively about yourself. With this method, you can see the problem in a different angle and how to cope.
 
Anger management for teens is not as difficult as it may seem. What you need is honesty and a little patience . I wish you success in your journey to good anger management . Teens

Tips : how to control anger

We all have times when our anger is a bit out of control. However, some people may rarely calm and present a particular threat to them and their well-being because of his anger. anger
 
Here are some tips to calm if you are angry most often: control
 
Take time
 
I know this may seem a silly point . But take a moment when you are angry, in minutes , somewhere no one can see if you can take a few deep breaths and understand the situation was really worth getting angry about - works. anger
 
Think before you act
 
Think before you act can be very powerful. You can learn to reduce your anger before it even gets to you, and when you catch your thoughts with success before you get mad , you are well on your way to handle your anger. control
It may take some time, but be happy when you just realized first, just understand the exact process that makes you angry . Then you can work on the realization of what is happening inside earlier and earlier , before you can stop. anger
 
Exercise
 
Many people are angry because they work all day in the office, was noted for his work and his work , and simply have no way out.
They usually do not have time to exercise , or at least what they think. But not a regular exercise brings a lot of tension , we must give priority to find time to run, weights, or at least a walk - anything as long as you keep the body moving. anger
You will feel better for it - the exercise will reduce or eliminate stress completely .
 
Use Humor
 
Using humor as a mechanism to suppress their anger is much more socially acceptable and much healthier for you. tips
Try to understand what is funny in a situation that makes you angry . Try to force yourself to laugh first, and then laughter can come naturally. anger
Our brain does not know the difference between laughing and laughing , of course , by the way - which is why so many people who aspire to his superiors seem to really enjoy the company of superiors. tips
 
Relax
Relax ! It's easy . There are many ways you can try to relax - take a long relaxing walk in the park , staring at the TV all day selected , get a massage or going to a hypnotist to help you relax , or maybe even the year.
When you are relaxed , it will be much harder to get angry.
 
I really hope these tips will help . All you have to do is put them into action and positive change . tips

How to easily control anger

Anger is a feeling of precipitation. This feeling of precipitation usually harmful . In the pages of history and bibliographic citations , anger has been found to be associated with evil. 

Carries a negative energy. The anger and sense of irascible attitude should be avoided as a pizza 5 days. But human beings are a mixture of many things and anger is one of the basic elements that affect the psychological and moral status of a person.easily
 
Situations can occur when feelings rush could get the best of us. And it is never advisable for a man's perspective . So, knowing anger control is a good thing . Documents could have constituted a serious research on anger management , but really long in this modern world through a long thesis? Most of us did not. That's why we find simple ways to control their anger .
 
So what should you do to manage your anger ? When anger is greater than a person begins to feel fragile. In some extreme cases, organizations start shaking and seems to create a feeling of unease. Anger can be controlled easily for granted. Yes, if you stand on your feet, just sits . Will be reduced slightly. If the problem persists , close your eyes and breathe regularly . Some still feel the uncomfortable feeling of winning . 

In this case, you should lie on your back. If you are in a public place , try to find a bench to rest awhile. And close your eyes for a minute or two and take normal breaths. This will certainly help you return to a state of normalcy . This is a very old theory and it works most of the time.
 
You can also try drinking some cold water at the time of the meeting and to improve their ability to reduce their anger. This is a safe way and you must try when you need it . It's an interesting thing about this. The more you practice this good habit, it takes less time to work to try to reduce his anger. Is the rush Junk easy, precise and accurate control called anger. control

Learn Lessons : Group Conflicts

Being in a group situation means you have to know something about conflict management . I have not been in a group that worked smoothly all the time. Why voltages are varied as the people involved. These are the lessons I learn teamwork : Group
 
1) clearly defined procedures : these include how to communicate and what the process is, in case of conflict, the frequency will be the group meeting , the roles and function description . It is a "go to" manual when necessary. To start a project / program without this gives the group a confusing manner . Group
 
2) good leader : preferably with mediation techniques. Someone who trusts the team to be impartial and that is a good listener . It is the role of the leader to keep track events . It is not always easy to find all these qualities in one person , so I've seen the group assigned these functions. As all members know who is the go-to be disagreements will be handled efficiently. Conflicts learn
 
3) Transparency is the key to project success : maintaining open channels of communication and make information accessible to all members of the group. Report regularly on the progress of the team to all stakeholders helps to maintain good relations . Conflicts
I tried to get a broken to put the matter to a vote by all members of the liaison group . The conduct of transparency vary send messages to all members on all issues ( be able to have a separate box for this letter !) Or the beginning of each meeting with a "check in " where each member of the group discusses everything that is on your mind . Group
 
4) " Do not take it personally ," I can not tell you many times I said to myself and always makes me jerk reaction out of another offensive , insulting When I comment . do not say that to me , I used to respond with anger and blurt out whatever is on my mind at the time. But gradually I realized that does not help the problem. Conflicts
By mental counting , deep breathing , I got a handle on my anger. This brings me to my next suggestion , learn to eliminate stress.
 
5) Make a break ! Work is important , but that's life . Take a break from doing what you love. In my case, it is to create , write and dance. I will not hit the treadmill, but I can dance up a storm at any Zumba or Mumbo . Find a way to stop thinking about the problem at hand , so that you can approach it with a fresh mind tomorrow. I like to combine this period with the endorphins released during exercise activity will make me happy and sleep in peace. Journal can help you clarify your thoughts , maybe even put things in perspective. My favorite things to write in my journal is " Main achievements of today. " It could be as simple as cooking a new dish. Conflicts
 
There is no miracle solution to the conflict , but these measures have worked to make me more balanced in my views . After all, is not the management of conflicts over how we perceive and react to that? I'd like to hear your experiences of conflict and what worked for you! Conflicts

What is a right to marry?

Allah mentioned the most categories of women 
involved in this issue in the following verses:

. . " And do not marry women who are not their parents married , except what has already passed really was obscene, hateful , and an evil way (22 ) Non ti in marriage are : marry
• Their mothers.
• His daughters.
• His sisters .
• sisters of his father.
• the sisters of her mother. marriage
• Sisters of your brother.
• Girls of her sister.
• The nursing staff.
• His " sister " in nursing.
• Their wives mothers.
• His stepdaughters under your guardianship born of your wives with whom you have spent - if you do not eat , then there is no sin on you.  marriage
• The women in your blood child
• Two sisters together, except what has already passed. marry
• Indeed , Allah is Forgiving, Merciful . ( 23 )
• Those who are already married, except those whom your right hand possesses (capture) .
• the prescription of Allah upon you . marriage
• And you are all right next to them if you are looking for with your property search chastity not fornication ... " [Noble Quran 4:22-24]
Those who are banned forever
This category includes those that one is forbidden to marry because , as well as some blood relationship that are banned due to marital relationships . marriage
Prohibited by Blood Relations
Descendants because of a relationship with a woman , no matter how far (the daughter of a man , granddaughter, etc.)
Ancestors of women, no matter how far ( the mother, the maternal and paternal grandmother, etc.) marriage
The descendants of their parents , no matter how far (sisters , sisters, sisters of children , etc.)
Brothers and sisters of male and female parents , no matter how far (paternal and maternal uncles, aunts , etc.) marry
The student may consider these , grandma not explicitly mentioned in the verse. This is often in Arabic and the Koran (as in some verses on inheritance) , the term "parent" includes grandmother and growing. marriage
Those permanently banned due to marital relationships
Wives of it, no matter how far ( the wife of the grandfather 's wife's father, etc. . ) Consumption is not necessary, the simple execution of the contract of marriage marriage is banned forever .
The wives of the descendants no matter how far . Again, the contract of marriage is simply what you see here with or without consumption. marriage
Ancestors of women ( and mother - in - law) if consumed or not. marry
Descendants of women ( daughters - and their children) if the man consummated the marriage with the woman in question . The phrase " under his wing " is mentioned here only to represent the common case and not as a condition. Decision is met if the daughter was still in custody or not. This is the opinion of most scholars. marriage
Those permanently banned because of breastfeeding  marry
The verse actually says " mothers " and "sisters " through breastfeeding. Of these two, the other can be derived based on the hadith of the Prophet (peace and salvation be upon him ) :
"Breastfeeding mark forbidden what is forbidden by the ties of blood. " [Muslim]
In another hadith , the Prophet (peace and salvation be upon him ) was asked to marry the daughter of his uncle Hamza and said : marriage
" It is not permissible for me. She is the daughter of my brother through breastfeeding. Feeding and forbids what is prohibited by the ties of blood . [Bukhari and Muslim with different wording]
On another occasion , the brother of a woman who had breastfed Ai'shah came to visit . She refused to leave until she asked the Prophet (peace and salvation be upon him ) and said:
" Give him permission because he is our guy."[Bukhari and Muslim] marry
Minimum requirement of lactation
There are a variety of opinions about how many "sessions" of breastfeeding creates a prohibition on one , five, ten , seven three . A common view , that play is that the child should be fed three times. This is based on the hadith :
"The ban is not set for a blow job or two. "
The strongest opinion is that of Malik , Abu Hanifa , ' Ali ibn Abi Talib , ' Abdullah ibn ' Umar , ' Abdullah ibn ' Abbas and others that one session is enough . This review is the stronger because it is the apparent meaning of the verses ridha'a and Hadith and that the above hadith could easily mean " shit " and not " session" if in other words, if the baby is fed only once or twice it does not count unless the baby completes the "session" , the consumption of satisfaction. marriage
Women in this category marry
His female through nursing ancestors. This includes the woman who looked after him and his mother, etc. The husband of the nurse is considered the "cause" of milk involved . For example , if a girl is run by a woman, the woman's husband becomes prohibits its just like the blood of his own father. marriage
Descendants of nursing . The man who is the "cause " of milk is forbidden to marry one feeds his wife or children, etc.
The descendants of the "fathers " through nursing, namely " sisters." You can not marry with one child ( by blood or nurse ) nurse or her husband. marriage
Siblings soaring ie Nursing, brothers and sisters of the nurse or her husband. This does not include their children ("cousins" of nursing). marry
Please note the following important point, as indicated by Ibn ' Uthaymeen (' Uthaymeen): " The parents of the child is maintained with the exception of his / her children, has no relationship with the mother of breastfeeding [or husband] and no effect on them as nursing. So is authorized for the blood brother of a child to marry the nurse or girls her brother. however, children the child who has been treated as children 's nurse and her husband in the same way become his father (who initially treated) was a " child" ( for seniors) to these two . "
Prohibited for temporary reasons marry
The second category of women a man is forbidden to marry are prohibited for reasons of time . If the reason ceases to exist, including marriage becomes legal. These include the following :
While being married to a woman, a man can not marry his sister or an aunt . The first was mentioned in the verses above and the second is mentioned in the following hadith : marriage
"The Prophet (peace and salvation be upon him) forbade the union (in marriage at the same time) a woman and her paternal aunt or a woman and her maternal aunt . " [Bukhari and Muslim]
If a person who divorces his wife three times , is not allowed to marry again, unless and until she marries another person ( not a trick to go back to it) consummates the marriage and that marriage is then closed legally. marry
Any woman if the man already has four wives. marriage
Marrying a slave when you are already married to a free woman.
Marry a woman who is already married or is in 'iddah . A woman 'iddah is due to death or divorce is not allowed to marry until it is finished.
A woman to whom a man has Li'an least admits he lied . Al- Li'an is where the husband accuses the wife of adultery but can not bring witnesses if he swears it happened and the two are separated after the woman swears she is innocent. You can never marry again unless he admits he lied . marriage
A woman who is not a Muslim , Jew or Christian.
Several questions about who can marry
Not exclude illegal marriage relationship ?
Suppose a man and a woman living illegally as boyfriend and girlfriend, and then decide that they would like me Islamic married. Is it possible now married, or who have already made ineligible for marriage? According to reports in Sunan Ad- Daraqutni there are two different views among the Companions . One said that the two men they should not be allowed to marry , while another said that the first act was a sin , but the second act was legal.  marriage
It may be a case where the situation is different in different cases and at different times and in which the sovereign or imam should decide on this basis. For example, suppose that this practice is widespread among Muslims of most believers today: living with someone in sin to " get to know " before marriage. In this case , the magnet should perhaps forbid her marriage all to fight this evil practice . Moreover , suppose that ignorance is so large (for example, people who have recently entered Islam) that people do without really being aware of the seriousness of the issue . In this case, the Imam probably allow marriages until people can be educated . marriage
One thing that is clear on this issue is not practiced in the mosques of the country (where this problem occurs almost every day) is that the two actions must be totally independent. marriage
The distinction between a child born of fornication and that which is born of the marriage is very important in Islamic law . For this reason, at least one couple who had illicit relations should be sentenced to Istibra . This means they must be separated and have no contact with each other for a whole month, until it can be determined that she is not pregnant . marriage
They should be invited to tawbah (repentance ) than they did before marriage as Islamic requirement . This is to avoid the prohibition (according to one of two interpretations ) that is found in Surah An- Nur , verse 3 (coming soon) . marriage
Marrying a woman while she is in her period
Although man is not allowed to divorce his wife during this period , there is nothing wrong with getting married during this time. However, they should not consummate the marriage until she became clean. marriage
Is it okay to marry an adulteress ?
There is a difference of opinion among scholars as to whether or not it is permitted to marry a woman known to be an adulteress. Most experts do not take the ban, while other researchers believe it is haram. Most of this dispute revolves around understanding the following verses :
Married " fornicator " " No fornicator or adulterer but is associative and" wife " of anyone but a fornicator or an associative and believers are prohibited ." [Noble Quran 24:3] marriage
The difference revolves around some basic questions about this verse :
This verse is a declaration of the ban, just a statement condemning this act without prohibiting or fact?
Is the meaning of " nakaha " by the marriage contract , the actual physical relationship or both?
Based on the above, is the prohibition referred to in the latter part of the verse in the act of fornication itself or marriages between them?
Obviously , the safest regarding this verse position is to understand the word " nakaha " with two meanings : that is, the marriage contract and the physical act between man and woman . marriage
Understood in this way , the verse is clearly a strong warning believers against undertake a marital relationship with a prostitute who has not repented or a man in a similar state. Obviously if Repent , then this verse does not even apply to them repentance erases the above Let's see what some scholars of tafsir had to say about the above verse: marriage
" The state of the most immoral , they do not want that marriage no fornicator like them The intent here is . Severe warning against believers who marry after fornicators who only have created serious warned against staying away fornication and adultery ( . in the previous verse ) is the best view supported by the evidence and that {a forbidden the believers.} ie , the fornicators or associationists marriage - .. because of the intensity of the people as corruption and open the door to the prosecution and the possibility of having a child that is not theirs , n is not allowed Muslim men knowingly or prostitute for a Muslim woman to marry chaste marry a Muslim man to prostitute knowingly chastity. " [Tafsir Al - Zubdatu min Fath Al -Qadir , p. 457]
"This is a clear statement of the turpitude of fornication and pull down the reputation of its director, and one that mates with them or mix them in a way that no other can sin . Then Allah informed us that the fornication is not desired in an adulterous marriage - whose condition is similar to yours - or associating partners with Allah who do not believe in the resurrection or reward and punishment and which do not conform to the laws of God and even fornicating . marries her no, but a fornicator or an associationist . {and has forbidden the believers} ie believers was forbidden to marry a fornicator or adulterer. marriage
And the meaning of this verse is : Anyone looking to marry someone that fits the description of "fornication " and was not sorry for what the need is either 1) does not respect the laws of Allah - and this is no more than an " associative " or 2) a person who enforces the laws of Allah, but who engage in this type of marriage despite her knowledge of her fornication. Marriage itself is fornication and marriage is a fornicator and obscenity investigation . If he ( or she ) really believes in Allah, he would not participate in such a marriage . marriage
This is an explicit proof of the prohibition of marriage to fornicate until she repents and even marriage ban until a fornicator because pairing and proximity to repent a husband to his wife or the wife to her husband is the most closest of all bonds . " [Tafsir As- Saadi , p. 510] marriage
However, most scholars of fiqh state that this verse shows how marriage is to blame, but not prohibited. Also based its position on the following hadith :
"A man came to the Messenger of Allah (peace and salvation be upon him) and said : . I have a wife that is most dear to me , but do not push the inking hand He (peace and blessings be upon him) I said . " The man said his divorce, but I can not do without it , he (peace and blessings be upon him ) said . " So enjoy it. " marriage
This is a weak argument for several reasons . First, there are doubts about the validity of the hadith . Imam Ahmad said it was low , although other researchers have considered authentic. Second, the words do not erase adultery . They could simply good ( or better ) can be taken to mean having a " Coquette " behavior with men and do not maintain proper etiquette of a Muslim woman . In fact , it is very unlikely that the adulterer no longer be lawful for him to say such a thing and the Prophet (peace and salvation be upon him) would have only three options in this situation : 1 ) request four witnesses 2) tell him he must Li'an , or 3) exceed eighty lashes . marriage
Obviously, if you are not allowed to marry a chaste Muslim woman until she repents according to the strongest opinion , should be even more in the case of a non-Muslim woman unchaste . As a non-Muslim has no ability to Tauba - since belief is a requirement tawbah and all other acts of worship and is not a believer - it is very unlikely that the stigma of fornication / adultery can never be removed. In the next section, insha'Allah , we will cover in detail the wedding decisions, " People of the Book " (Jews and Christians) . marriage
Is it permissible to marry Christian or Jewish women ?
This issue has always been of opinion between the scholars of Islam and especially in our time, when Islam became so weak in the land and a large number of Muslims living in the country - and not Islamic societies - Islamic variable. The essential Quranic verses relating to this topic are:
" And do not marry until they believe associative " . [Noble Quran 2:221] marriage
"Today all good things have been made lawful for you and the food of the People of the Book is lawful for you and your food is lawful and honest woman among the believers and chaste women from among those who received Reserve before you when you give them their due as protective ( of honor) , not (activated) in promiscuity or having a lover. , and refusing faith has canceled their actions and in the other, between the loss . " [Noble Quran 5:05] marriage
People Food Book { } The reference here is meat sacrificed . It is legitimate for Muslim women to eat, unlike beef and all other believers .
{Their food is lawful for them} There's nothing wrong with them from our diet.
{Women castes among the believers and chaste Muslim women} free . Another proof that a previously reported, a Muslim can not marry a Muslim woman prostitute has not repented and changed their ways. In addition , a Muslim can not marry a Muslim slave but on two conditions : their inability to do the opposite and the immediate fear of falling into sin if he does not. marriage
{Women caste among those who received the Book before} ie Christians and Jews. It is a takhsis (rating) of the verses of Surah Al- Baqarah . A Muslim is permitted to marry freely and chaste from among the People of the Book . For women of corruption - not subject to restrictions zina in two lower forms ( promiscuity or having a lover ) - he can not marry if they are Muslims or people of the Book .
{ } Give them their due , ie , we made lawful for your wedding when you have given them their dowries. By using the word " contributions" or "salary" ( Ujur ) there is an indication that the item must be fair , which means the " rate " ( dot - mithl ) . So if you have the intention not to return the dowry for her, so it's not halal. marriage
{As protectors ( of honor)} means that you, O husbands , be protective of their women dishonor that protects you from sin.
{No (engaged) in promiscuity or having a lover in jahiliyah} Zina was of two types : those that are promiscuous with everyone and engaged in long term but illicit relations with a partner. Here God tells us not to distinguish between the two , and both face chastity and protection of honor and one of the requirements of marriage is that the husband is free to zina . marriage
 
Al- Baqarah Al- Maidah repealing or Al- Maidah qualifies Al- Baqarah ?
It is a poor view that Al- Baqarah verse that prohibits marriage all associationists (which includes Christians and Jews ) repealing the above verse of Al- Maidah which allows Muslim men Christian and Jewish women to marry. It is well known that Al- Baqarah was one of the earliest Surahs to be communicated to Medina , while Al- Maidah was one of the last . Therefore, we must conclude - as the vast majority of researchers agree - the verse in Al- Maidah were granted power is a degree or change (takhsis) from the general prohibition of Al- Baqarah . marriage
Who are the People of the Book ?
Another view held by some researchers said it rejected a Muslim man can marry a Christian or Jewish descendant of those who were Christians or Jews before their books were distorted or before their religions were replaced by Islam. Ibn Hajar , the author of Fath al- Bari (the most famous comment of Sahih Al- Bukhari) has responded to this by commenting on the hadith in a letter sent by the Prophet (peace and salvation be upon him ) to the Roman emperor contained the verse: marriage
" O People of the Book, come to a statement that is fair and just between us ... " [Noble Quran 3:64]
Ibn Hajar says:
" Everyone who follows the religion of the people of the book , making the same decision that marriage and slaughter . This is based on the fact that Hercules and his men were not the tribes of Israel, but they were people who came in Christianity after being deformed. he (the Prophet (peace and salvation be upon him) said to him and his people , "O people of the Book. " This means you have the same decision that the People of the Book, in opposition to those who say it is only for the people of the tribes of Israel, or whether it refers to those who are known to have embraced Judaism or Christianity before these religions were distorted . Allah knows best . "
In general , it is permissible marriage
Obviously , the correct understanding is that the authorization to Al - Maidah modified or particularized the general prohibition of Al- Baqarah . This is generally not allowed associationists wedding, but an exception to the Jewish and Christian women did, though doubtless Jews and Christians were described as associationists in the Qur'an. Ibn Al- Mundhir says: " No records one of the first scholars that is unacceptable. "
But some seem to have it banned   marriage
Abdullah ibn Umar asked him about a man to marry a Christian woman and he said : "Allah has forbidden the believing women polytheists and not know of any associated partner is greater than for a woman Jesus said or slaves of Allah is the Lord . " Furthermore, it is well known that his father Omar Ibn Al- Khattab was opposed to such marriages , but would not say it was banned , it seems that we must understand the statement of the child in this context - . Or would clearly contradict the Quran 'Umar ordered a number of people to divorce their wives do not - Islamic .. all they did , except Hudhaifa Hudhaifa asked Omar if he could say that marriage . was forbidden and ' Umar he declined to make such a statement . this we must conclude that those who opposed it did not think it was prohibited. marriage
Stronger Opinion: allowed , but not preferred
Jabir ibn Abdullah was asked about marriage and he said : " We were married at the time of the conquest of Kufa with Saad ibn Abi Waqas but hardly could find Muslim women When we got there , we got divorced .. "
There is no doubt that such marriages can lead to a lot of problems for Muslims and that the situation is worse today with the weakness of most Muslim men in their knowledge and practice. Moreover, as Sheikh Ibn Baz said , " today people are listening and obedience to their wives. Therefore a marriage of this kind could be dangerous to one's religion and the religion of the children. " marriage
Muslims - Terms Marry ' s These women do not
Even those who allow (and disapprove of ) these marriages down certain conditions for admissibility .
You must be chaste (' Afifa) . On this condition alone could eliminate the vast majority of marriages that take place in this country. Note that as a woman no - Muslim does not do tauba (repentance) , because it is an act of worship and no act of worship is accepted without the precondition of the belief that lacks the attribute of " fornication " A in your case it may not apply if you become a Muslim , regardless of the time it left the practice itself. marriage
It should not be Ahl Al- Harb (those who are at war with Muslims). It is reported that Ibn Abbas said . " Not allowed to marry women of the book if people are fighting against Islam " While it is questionable whether the United States right now, "Ahlu al- Harb" or not , as their opposition to Islam is clear, but there is a war going on right now , is clearly a disadvantage for a Muslim to marry a woman not - Muslim in this context If something goes wrong, its goods and innocent children will almost certainly be severely violated because of the injustice and partiality of the courts in this regard .. marriage